The Childish Behavior That Ruins Adult Relationships (Level 1)

Many problems in love have a hidden cause. As children, we learned what our families needed from us. Some children had to be funny to make Mom laugh. Some had to be quiet or stay away from a sad or angry parent. These were smart ways to survive at the time. But these old strategies last too long. A person may be distant or difficult with a partner because of an old habit from childhood. For example, someone may pull away from touch because a parent once hurt them. The next time your partner seems angry or strange, try to understand what they had to do to survive. Remember, they may be using an old strategy and forgot that time has changed. You may be doing the same thing too.